Thursday, January 17, 2013

Finding Happiness as a Stay-at-Home Mom

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savoring the abundance in your life

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something
 you design for the present." ~John Rohn

Before the new year arrived, I began thinking of family intentions that I wished to focus on when January rolled around.  One of those wishes was to bring laughter, joy, and a basic feeling of happiness into our home on a daily basis.  As a mother, I get so much pleasure from making my son's face light up with delight. One of the sweetest sounds to hear around the house is the giggling of a 2 year old, which is usually followed by the laughter of two adults that think he is the cutest toddler that ever walked the Earth.


abundance in your life


To bring such liveliness and contentment to a family, you simply need to let it in.  As I was reading my latest book selection for this year, Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy (thanks to a recommendation from Shawn at Awesomely Awake)  I came across a passage that truly resonated with me as a stay-at-home mom.  The author talks about the fact that we have everything that we need in life to make us happy, we just have to take the time to bring those unique, special moments that we experience into awareness.  Often times, the days go by so quickly that we forget to savor the little moments that truly bring us joy.

Instead of looking outside of our present lives to find happiness, or looking to a future that may be out of our reach, we need to embrace the minutes of the day that make our soul smile.  Imagine the amount of joy that would blossom around us if we did this each and every day?  I feel that if you wish for your child to grow up and radiate a certain quality ~ patience, thoughtfulness, strength, peace ~ you need to model it as best you can.

Lately, I've been thinking about the blessings that I have the privilege to experience during my time at home with Grady.  Even though there are days that can be challenging, lonely, and a bit repetitive, there are so many aspects of this "job" that make me happy.  From the little advantages, such as being able to stay in our pajamas as long as we want, to the wonderfully breathtaking moments that take me by surprise. It has been so enlightening to sit back and think of all of the exquisite parts of my day that bring me joy.  Here are just a few of those moments and opportunities that fill me with a sense of abundance...


Watching the sun come up as we both awake and begin our day.

Enjoying breakfast together during the peaceful moments of the morning.

Interpreting my son's "language" as I listen to him challenge his own limits of the spoken word.



Seeing his eyes light up as he discovers his toys over and over again each morning.

Listening to music whenever the mood strikes us and allowing it to reset our day.


Snuggling up with a few good books on the couch or within a cozy nook around the house.

Experiencing his passions; watching them grow and evolve.

Sharing my passions with him.


Teaching him a new skill.

Having an "assistant" that loves to help me whenever he can. 

Overseeing his interactions with the world while using his five senses to guide him.


Encountering nature through our patio windows as the day unfolds.

Simply playing.



Fostering his imagination and allowing him the freedom to test his limitations.

Embracing the autonomy in our schedule, meals, and creative outlets ~ just letting the day lead us where we want to go.

Having the opportunity to take my role seriously as as mother by modeling the traits and values that we hold dear as a family. 


By bringing these sweet gifts into awareness, I now feel like I take the time to cherish them as often as possible.  By letting those moments consume me and bring a smile to my face, it makes it that much easier to be present with my son as we experience them in our daily life.  Hopefully, this is the first step to bringing more happiness into our home ~ treasuring what it already there.

If you would like to join me in a year-long journey to find and embrace the abundance that is always present around us, please drop by Awesomely Awake to learn more about The Abundant Mama Project that is bringing joy to Mamas all around the world!


         

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21 comments:

  1. I have joined this group a few weeks ago and I am already so happy with how Shawn is opening my eyes. Thanks for sharing your experiences.x

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    1. I'm so glad you're enjoying it! It has made quite an impact on me, too!

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  2. This is such a wonderful post, that I REALLY needed to read today... thank you for sharing.
    PS. Grady is one of the cutest little boys!!

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    1. Thanks, Kat! I have to remind myself of these gifts often ~ especially when I'm having one of those days!

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  3. Fantastic post! I've been thinking about signing up for the Abundant Mama Project. I think you have convinced me :) Just a beautiful perspective.

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    1. Thank you! Oh, I hope that you do. Shawn is really helping me look at my life from a new perspective.

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  4. Gina, I always come away from reading your posts with a renewed appreciation for what I have and a reminder to cherish time with my family. Thank you for another meaningful post. Before bed tonight I'm going to write my own list of what I love about being a SAHM.

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    1. Ann, thank you so much for your comment. I'm so glad that you enjoyed this post. I would love to hear a few of the moments that you treasure as a SAHM!

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  5. At the end of the day, I always ask Bobo what his favorite part was. More often than not, he'll say "video games." But sometimes he surprises me, like last night when he said, "when you got here."

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    1. How sweet, Miss Courtney! Those moments are the best!

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  6. What a wonderful post! When I first started staying at home with my girls I found I started to get lost a bit in the tasks of the day rather than enjoying the little moments. Then I started writing down some of the special things throughout the day...many of them just like the ones you share here. I no longer write them down, but it has become a habit to stop, recognize and linger in those moments.

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    1. That's wonderful, Shaunna! It is so easy to get wrapped up in the repetitive tasks that we have to do each day. My son helps me to focus on the positive, though. :)

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  7. Struggling with "do I work again?" to fulfill that need of being with adults because I stay at home, vs. wishing I was at home to witness their growth myself if I did work; made me realize it doesn't matter what I do... I'll always want what I don't have. Your list is like my list, and I need to be reminded that I wouldn't get to enjoy them nearly enough if I was working. I'd rather enjoy more of what I'm passionate about...my own kids.

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    1. I often feel the same way, Heather. I miss the challenge of teaching and the camaraderie that I felt with the other teachers, but I am so grateful to be able to witness my son growing and changing each day that I am home with him.

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  8. Gina, I came upon your blog on pinterst.com (Oh I love that site). I just want to thank you for your openness. I just got finishing reading this post as well as a few other's. My favorite being your Gratitude post. My sister who will be 36 in just a few days was adopted from Korea at 9 months. My father was stationed there & he & my mother were told the couldn't have children. Though 3 yrs later they had me, 2 more they had my sister & almost 19yrs later my mom had my last sister with my step-dad. I don't think I really have thought about how thankful I am to my sister's birthmom. I've thanked God many times but even though she can't hear me I hope she know's how thankful I am! This yr my 5yr started school & I'm sure I didn't appreciate being home with her daily like I should have but I love the way you encourage mom's to love being a SAHM. Thank you!

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    1. This came from Christy, not Gavin :)

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    2. Christy, thank you so much for stopping by and gifting me with such kind words. Grady's birthmom will always be a part of our lives and someone who I think about often. Whenever I look at him or his personality shines through in a unique way, I always wonder if he gets this or that from his mom or from his dad. They must have been wonderfully positive and kind people to produce a son that radiates each of the qualities. It's always so nice to hear from others that have been touched by adoption. Oh, and I do have to remind myself often that being a SAHM is a blessing - something that I choose. Especially during those trying times. Thanks again for stopping by!

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  9. what a beautiful post. Thank you for reminding me to look at the small things that make me smile. All to often I forget to pause and enjoy them. I'm featuring your post on the Sunday Parenting Party this weekend. (If you'd like one you can grab an "I was featured" button from my blog buttons page).

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  10. This is lovely Gina. It's so important, but not always easy, to find beauty and gratitude in the small moments. I've featured your post on The Sunday Parenting Party this week.

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